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Some Christians Shouldn’t Eat in Restaurants!

by Lisa Manning on October 30, 2014


(Beware.  This post is a rant.  You have been warned.)

The comment below just came through my Facebook newsfeed in response to this question:   What are your tipping rules for tip jars at the counter, carry out orders or quick service? (Ex. Tipping a barista at a coffee shop)

Waiters, etc, maybe 5%..
.. Not because I disrespect them. GOD only asks for 10% I’m not giving you something higher or even equal.

(See the original post here:  Tipping Question)

For those of you who know me well, you KNOW I had to comment back.  Are you kidding me?  Where does any restaurant ask for 10-15% of your income?  When I was a waitress, church people said this to me a few times.  It made my blood boil then…and now too.

During college, I was a restaurant manager of a very popular 24 hour restaurant.  My schedule rotated every other week.   The first week, I was scheduled to work nights from 5:00pm to 2:00 or 3:00am.  Those were the “happy hours” when the drunken patrons closed the bars and came in for munchies.  The restaurant was lively and filled with joy.  The second week, I worked during the day from 7:00am to 5:00pm.  It was this week I had the “pleasure” of working with the church crowd on Sunday afternoon.  Without exception, every staff member DREADED the church crowd and the tension they brought with them.  Not all, but the majority of the church people were demanding and impatient.  They complained about having to wait for a table or the restaurant being out of chocolate cake.  Instead of using their manners and politely asking for more coffee, they treated the servers like servants.  Then, they would hardly tip or, better yet, leave a tract or fake million dollar bill telling how life with Jesus was worth more than millions.

Every Sunday, those Christians broke my heart with their “testimony.” 

I wanted to stand up in the middle of the restaurant and give my own sermon.  I could have titled it with one of these topics:

  • How to REALLY exhibit the fruits of the Spirit as listed in Galations 5
  • How to let your face know you just attended church (Proverbs 15:13)
  • Doing unto others as you would have them do to you (Matt. 7:12)

With the exception of the times I was not in fellowship with God, I have attended church the majority of my life.  I know that many Christians have great hearts.  They truly want to help the others around them and be a light in the crazy world we live in.  Often, that is NOT the way they portray themselves in public. If you choose to be rude and are not able to treat others with respect, then do the rest of Christians a favor. Don’t admit you are a Christian. 

That reminds me of this sad joke:

Driving along a busy street, a man became aware of an impatient woman who was tailgating him. She was so close that when he had to brake to allow some children to use a pedestrian crossing, she almost crashed into him.  Furious at being delayed, she sounded her horn and began waving her fists in a disgraceful exhibition of a road rage.
      Before she could move off, she felt a tap on her window. It was a police officer who ordered her to step out of the car. He then asked her to come down to the station where she was searched, fingerprinted, photographed, and put in a cell. A couple of hours later, after vehicle checks had been carried out, she was told that she could collect her valuables and that she was being released without charge. The woman was extremely indignant at her arrest and demanded an apology.
      The officer responsible explained the reason for the mistake. “You see, madam, I pulled up behind your car while you’re sounding your horn and loudly cursing the driver in front of you. Then I noticed the ‘Follow Jesus, Not Me’ sticker on the rear window, the ‘God Is Love’ sticker, and the chrome-plated Christian fish emblem on the boot. Naturally, I assumed that you had stolen the car…”

Everywhere you go, you have the opportunity to bless others around you and show them the love of God.  Whether it be tipping a server, encouraging a cashier who has had a bad day or even picking up trash in a parking lot, you can point others to Jesus through your actions. 

Are you exhibiting love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, self-control and gentleness when you are around others that you want to influence for Christ? Those are not only the characteristics that God wants to see in your life but also the ones will make others want to be to find out what being a Christian is all about.

Others are watching.  Let them see your BEST!



Saturday Night Runaway Mom

by Lisa Manning on October 27, 2014

Random Thoughts on a Saturday Night:

I have a secret. 

Sometimes, I want to run away.

I almost did it once 28 years ago.  I pulled into the parking lot of an airport and thought I might just use my empty credit card to take a vacation to a  warm spot the next flight was going….just buying a swimsuit and lounge on the beach.  I chickened out.  Later that week, I crashed my car into an embankment when I lost control in a snowstorm.  My empty credit card was then filled with car repair bills.  I should have run away.  ツ

It is Saturday night.  My husband is working.  The car alarm keeps going off without reason.  My daughter just announced that she invited a neighbor child (I don’t know) to spend the night tonight and her mom said it is fine.  Must call and fix that.  As I am picking up wet towels and other messes around the house, here are my completely random thoughts.  Welcome to my brain.

“I am so tired of cleaning the house.  I feel like Cinderella sometimes.  I really need to get the kids in here to pick up their own things but it is easier to do it myself than disturb my momentary peace with nagging.  Is that the car alarm again?  The neighbors are going kill us if this keeps happening.  Maybe I will just go drop the car in a parking lot.  When the police call us about the incessant alarm, I will just tell them the car was stolen. 

Hey look!  The playroom threw up Barbie’s everywhere.  How did we ever end up with that many Barbies anyway? Do they exponentially multiply while we sleep?  Why are they always naked?  I am so NOT cleaning that up. 

Crud!  I forgot about the load of laundry I put in the wash this morning.  I hope I don’t have to wash it again.  Maybe the Cinderella’s woodland animals came in and folded the 3 baskets of laundry I have ignored the last few days.  Fat chance.  They probably just came in and peed or vomited on the carpet like the other animals.  Something else to clean up.

Surely, Cinderella ended up with a maid in her castle.  And a cook.  Speaking of which, the children probably need to eat again.  They ALWAYS seem to be eating, which means I ALWAYS am cleaning the kitchen.  I really need a Chai Tea but I think I am out.  Of course I am because I just spent $200 at the grocery store and that means in the next 2 days, we will be out of at least 5 things I missed.

I should run away.  Wait. There is no one here to watch the kids.  Getting a baby-sitter that doesn’t charge a fortune, actually plays with the kids (and not their phone) and makes the kids clean up their mess is next to impossible.  I guess if I run away, I am taking them with me.  Perfect.  A runaway Mom with her 2 kids.  I should probably take hubby too.  He needs a vacation.  Now, the whole family is running away with me.  That means I have to pack all the suitcases and the van. At least the clothes are clean; even if they are wrinkled.  You know the kids are either going to fight all the way there, complain about how bored they are or need to stop to go potty every 30 minutes.  It exhausts me just to think about it.

Scratch the running away with the kids.  I can’t leave by myself either. I would miss them.  But in my dreams, I am enjoying quiet, leisurely lunches, a good book, the cleanliness of a hotel room and a hot shower without anyone screaming my name.”


The silence is broken with a blood curdling scream.  Here’s a surprise.  The kids are fighting about some random nonsense.  After dispensing lecture #276 on the Biblical virtues of kindness, love and yada, yada, yada, I have an idea. 

“Anyone want to rent a movie, make popcorn for dinner and just snuggle?”  

“Me too. Let’s take 15 minutes to get our stuff cleaned up and pick a movie.”

Pajamas on.  Popcorn buttered and ready.

Girl Feet

“I wonder if anyone thinks I am a bad mom because we are eating popcorn for dinner?  Well, the kids will at least have a great memory so who cares what everyone else thinks.  My daughters are the most beautiful girls ever.  I love the way #1 laughs and #2 is the best snuggler ever.  This night is turning out great.

“Is that the car alarm I hear?” 



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